Skirting Gender: Life and Lessons of a Cross Dresser - Crossdressing Guide for Self-Expression & Confidence - Perfect for LGBTQ+ Events, Cosplay, and Personal Exploration

Reading this book was really fun. It feels kind of like Vera is having a conversation with you about her life and advice. She doesn't over-dramatize anything- it's just her experience. And as she points out, there isn't a lot of representation out there for crossdressers (whereas there is for the trans, gay, and lesbian communities), so this is a valuable resource to add voice to that perspective. She is very respectful in demystifying stereotypes. My favorite message from her (and other dressers and drag queens) is to just be confident in who you are, and that as long as you are confident, people are less likely to question it because then *they* are the odd ones out:"The easiest weapon you have to combat awkwardness is your own attitude. If you behave like it's just the most ordinary thing in the world for a man to buy lipstick and eyeshadow, then everyone else will as well. Even if they think in their head that it's odd they won't say anything if you act like it's normal, because then it makes them the ones acting weird about it. Nobody likes to be the odd one out. If you set the tone of it being normal, the vast majority of people around you will follow suit."I feel like this is good life advice for a lot of things!